Who are you raising? Who is watching how you behave and act towards others? Who is listening to how you speak, and what verbal slurs are said on those late night girl chats?
The answer for most people....The next generation and previous generations before. Whether you are a Mam, Auntie, cousin, sister, visiting a home with a child present, or out for lunch with your ladies....there is generally a child within earshot of your conversation. While we all accept that everyone is entitled to their opinions and to have adult conversation, lets just have a little think about it.
I have a 5-year-old who is as “diva” as they come. Fabulously diva, love everything about her sass and genuinely without being biased, she is very well behaved (for the most part). She is full to the brim with confidence, and with confidence comes the attitude and the feeling that she knows it all. We know she does not. She is quick with her back chat and even quicker with a temper tantrum! So as her Mam, I act daily to keep her in line. No this doesn’t mean I beat her or have her scared to speak or be herself, but it does mean she realises there is a limit… an imaginary line that she shouldn’t cross.
Why do I do this? Because I am her Mam, not her mate. I say this to her frequently too. Of course, I want her to feel like she can approach me in difficult times (in fairness this is how my Mam was and we have always had an extremely open and amazing relationship), but she has enough friends - strong parental figures are different. You see even without you noticing, your child or the children around you will pick up your mannerisms, your sayings… harmless as they may seem. What is said by adults in conversation generally shouldn’t be said by a child, and as much as you and I know I wouldn’t say abusive comments to a person because it is wrong, children don’t…
It is the age old saying of “monkey see, monkey do”.
So why do we now have a surge in videos showing bullying, WhatsApp groups set up where it is seen by people as normal to verbally abuse others and badger suicide, comments on photos pointing out the flaws in a person. Some people will blame social media. “It’s all social medias fault… gave them the tools to do it… gives them the freedom to express themselves”… Well hold on to your knickers because I call BULLSH*T!!
Yes social media is there, yes it’s a wider platform to “express opinions”, but who taught these people it was ever okay to speak to another person like that, or to physically harm another person and record it for pleasure… better yet… who allowed their child to think that is was okay?!
These people, both adolescents and adults, didn’t just wake up one morning with the urge to become an Internet Troll… pet peeve of mine if I’m honest! Keyboard gangsters hiding behind a computer screen, projecting negativity that they call “an opinion” on the world, using social media without any thought of how it may influence the children reading it or the people involved in the article/post/picture they are commenting on. They slowly progressed to this.
No I don’t have a teenager, so for all the “you haven’t been there” comments coming next, I have. I was once a teenager, I’m not that old! I had social media access and peer pressure. Guess what? I still knew right from wrong. I was in no way a saint, but I never trolled to hurt someone intentionally. Do you know why?... Because my family raised me not to. They raised me with that same imaginary line so when I was old enough to “express myself” I knew that trolling or abuse was not the way to go.
Putting someone else down wont build you up. Damaging someone else’s self-esteem wont boost yours. Calling someone fat won’t make you thin...and worst of all badgering someone about committing suicide rather than holding out a hand to help is the lowest scum of the earth and that is exactly what your parents should have told you!
My point overall of this is basically a mini rant; a snippet into my thoughts after yet another week of dipping into comments to read people's responses on the most random of posts. I am disgusted by trolls and fearful of them in relation to when my daughter grows up.
Families across the world have forgotten their roles because they’re too busy trying to be “cool mates” to their children, rather than their parental figures. I see it daily, and I will never understand it. Their phones are too close to their own faces to see what their child is doing in front of them on theirs. Suddenly a verbal slur, as negative as can be, is seen as okay because it is an “opinion”.
Child depression and suicide death rates are at an all-time high. This image is from 2015, http://www.nsrf.ie/statistics/suicide/ and in my opinion it’s a sad day for humanity when 10-14 year olds not only think suicide is their only option, but may have been driven to it.
The youth of today have more confidence in a hand-held device then speaking to each other, or a parental figure face to face and we ask why?…
We can blame social media but who is really to blame?
Rach @ CC xx
An opinionated woman and Mam…
Hi ladies! This week I tried the Blank Canvas Extreme Contour Brush. I absolutely loved everything about it! The angle of the bristles are perfect for blending and contouring the cheek bone. Anyone can contour with this brush - it's flawless, and for only €14.99 from most pharmacies it's worth every penny!
So this week, I am following on from last week's recommendation of the Catrice Primer and I'm recommending Catrice's All Matt Plus Shine Control Makeup. I cannot recommend this foundation enough. It is my day to day "work" makeup, and there isn't anything I don't like about it. It is affordable (€6.99), goes on flawlessly, works best with the Primer, and really does even out shine and fine lines. Cannot live without this product! Emma xx
Well anyone who knows me, knows my obsession with glitter! Yes I am obsessed with anything that sparkles. So, I couldn't resist Kiko's Glittery False Lashes Concentrate Top Coat Mascara. It has to be the best glitter mascara I have ever tried. It really provides a great coverage of sparkle and stays on.
I bought this a week ago and have worn it everyday over different coloured mascaras and it shows up great. It can also be worn by itself as it's a false lashes style mascara; if you just want to have a sparkle to your 'natural' look.
So if your like me and love to shine then this is a great product for you!
Rose water is perfect to use as a skin toner, especially if you have sensitive skin. I picked this one up from my local pharmacy for only €3.49. I use it after my cleanser to remove residue using damp cotton wool.
This one from Ultrapure Laboratories has the added benefit of glycerine ,not forgetting the delicate scent of rose. Its also great for using on hair. Fifi xx
My beauty buy of the week has to be the "Sumptuous Extreme" mascara shade "01 Extreme Black" from Estee Lauder. Retails @ €31.
It may seem an excessive buy for mascara, but some days the only makeup I wear is mascara.
This mascara is lash multiplying; making the most of your own lashes to give a fuller, bigger look. It's mousse based rather then liquid, so it gives the false lash effect without the extensions. Your eyes immediately look brighter and wider. It enhances what you naturally already have!
My lips are my favourite part of me, so this beautiful lipstick from Penneys "PS" range at €1.30 is a real steal. It glides on and has a lovely kind of bubblegum scent to it. I got the colour Vogue, which is a nude-like taupe colour - perfect for day looks. It makes your lips look full and soft with a little hint of shine. Unfortunately, it wont last all day like maybe some more expensive brands, but it is amazing for the price. It is also fabulous dupe of MAC's Velvet Teddy. Just in love..
So recently I posted this photo of myself and I didn't realise the storm it would cause - and not for good reasons! I was asked why I would post a picture like that of myself? Well here's a few reasons why!.....
I spent most of my teens into my early twenties battling EVERY SINGLE DAY TO BE THIN; sometimes resorting to extreme lengths to acquire what I thought was the perfect body....and for who?!?
It certainly wasn't benefiting me when I starved myself for days on end. My hair became thin and brittle (like my body). I would sit crying some days, unable to leave the house because I couldn't bare anyone seeing how 'ugly' and 'fat' I was (at the time I was 6 stone lighter).
I used to imagine cutting the fat off my body when starving it away wasn't quick enough, looking up cosmetic surgeries in the hope of chasing perfection.
So who was it all for?!? For everyone else except me; for all those who called me fat and told me I'd had enough to eat; those who told me I'd be so pretty if I was thinner; those whose own unrealistic body perceptions were being projected onto my body!
So why would I put up a picture like that? FOR ME AND NO ONE ELSE! It's my body and I make the rules now, for what makes me happy and is good for my body and mind. I do it for all the girls who message me and Celtic Curves everyday saying we are changing how they view their bodies and are able to start the process of loving themselves.
So the next time someone makes ANY comment on your body or questions why you do something tell them #mybodymyrules
Be unapologetically you , there is nothing more beautiful!
Love and curves
I write this as an extremely proud Mam of one amazing, 5-year-old, daughter. Alongside that, I am an independent, stressed-out, full time UNI student in my final year (currently working rotation shifts for no pay). I have a partner, family, friends, 4 dogs and a social life on occasion. Oh, and I am also fostering a 4 week old kitten. On top of all that, I have Celtic Curves, blogs and shoots. Needless to say, I am flat out busy!
So here’s some sarcastically humoured Mammy Truths. See, if you don’t have blind sarcasm, wit and a will to live, no matter how much you love them, you won’t survive! I mean YOU, the woman you were before… If you’re easily troubled or have zero sense of humour, turn away now… there’s no going back!
It’s not a miracle experience! It’s not beautiful! Its blind, agonising pain from the minute you find out your pregnant with stuff stretching, swelling and itching. Its blood, bodily fluids and poo (yep poo, yours...theirs....everywhere!) in those 9 months, and during the hours of labour, not once did I say “Awh jaysis, now isn’t this the most fabulous scenario I ever pictured myself in"... No, not once because at the time, when you’re in the moment, its bleeding not, it’s just horrific!!
The night feeds… holy sweet divine… If you ever want to mentally torment someone… make them do night feeds! You’re only in the bed and your back up. Your down in the kitchen boiling kettles, your pouring coffee into bottles instead of cups, you’re back up the stairs, forgetting the bottle and you’d rather fling yourself out a window then walk back down 13 steps! Your bed becomes the floor beside their cot because the walk is too far. Or worse… you co-sleep, the biggest mortal sin of all time! Just accept you’ll never sleep again, and be tired forever, and it becomes mildly more manageable!
Nappies and formula… Awh, the fear of having a poo… nappies and formula… can’t close my legs or sit down… nappies and formula… sweating everywhere, greasy hair that’s falling out…nappies and formula…oh look my boob is leaking… nappies and formula… belly is saggy and stretchmarks are itching… nappies and formula…
Right let’s do this!! It's gonna be a good day. I actually washed myself! Let’s get me and this child out of the house! So, we’ll need 7 outfits because she’ll poo and puke on them all, 50 million nappies, 67 bottles, 4 bags ,a pram with 4 different attachments because the car seat needs its own handles, the bottom detaches, the pram clicks into a base… oh and none of it fits into an average sized car, so you have to load part of the pram in the boot and part on the front seat, because the 700 other items are on the backseat. Now I’m sweating, and the child is waking, because it took so long to get ready and now she’s due another feed… and I'm crying because I'm exhausted…f*ck this sh*t...back into my PJs and we’ll stay in!
Visitors coming today… YES adult conversation with people who live outside, in the real world!! The house looks like a nuclear missile of sh*te just went off, so let’s rant at our partner for 6 hours about how they do nothing and that it’s all their fault - not just the house, OH NO - everything, the fact that the sky is blue! Why?! Because for the 1st year or so they become your enemy! They will literally bug you for breathing, why do they even need oxygen?! Then by the time the visitors come, your both just scowling and wishing everyone would leave!
,Every mother before you… especially your Mam or worse your partner's Mam (the aul bag) is now the bible of total bullsh*t that they “swear worked for us”, and they insist on either telling you or showing you how it should be done...because obviously, we’re doing it all wrong. HOW has the child even survived this long?! Eh, back the f*ck off and have a seat, your child ate dirt till they were 5… trust me I’ll manage!
iYour first night out! Woop! I have a sitter, the baby is gone and I'm going out with the girls! Skinny b*tches with no flabby bits, because their uterus is where it’s supposed to be inside them! Freedom… bye bye baby!!
And then the tears start because you’re a terrible mother for leaving them.
Then the fears... I have to wash myself and style my hair… I have to do makeup…OMG my bush hasn’t been waxed since pre-baby, and for the love of god don’t put a mirror down there! It’ll never look the same again and that causes more tears! I’ll have to stay awake and have a conversation about how wonderful their lives are in the real world… I’ll have to have a hangover! Maybe I’ll just stay In and sleep, all night!
My body - what is this new body?? I hate it and I want the old one back! For some magical creatures, their body just snaps back like an elastic band. For others, it never goes back… the baby pouch is there, the stretchmarks, the varicose veins, the flabby boobs and thighs, cankels… the f*cking cankels!
Accept them and stop hating them… they’re you… you just grew a whole human being!! Cut yourself some slack!
This is only some of the thoughts and experiences you might have. It’s not all doom and gloom. It’s wonderful too. Your hormones will turn you into a blubbering mess and you’ll be so consumed with a love you’ve never felt before. You will have a new reason to live! The point of this little snippet into my thoughts is simply that all the craziness is normal! Any of the above doesn’t mean I love my daughter any less. It just means my life 360 flipped and I had to learn how to live a different way.
I’ve only taken on (self-titled because of how they affected me not her) “the terrible 2's, the traumatic 3's, the furious 4's and the FML 5's”!
There’s a lot more to come, and I honestly can’t wait for them because I get to do it with my daughter and then add humour to keep my sanity!
No one is perfect so stop trying to be… no one can do it all, you won’t have enough hours in the day… no woman is the ideal mother… embrace the crazy as well as the good, and accept that you are no longer the woman you were… you are now Mammy!
Rach @ CC xx
We’re all just winging it!
Starting today and each Friday, we will be bringing you are top beauty picks of the week! All tried and tested by us!
I picked up this Havanna eyeshadow set from Penneys for a bargain. It was reduced from €6 to €3.
I just couldn't leave it there! I'm a huge fan of the "beauty on a budget" concept, and these shadows prove that you don't need to spend a fortune for a great product.
The colours are just beautiful - especially for a summer look, and they are really pigmented and easy to blend and work with. Lets face it - the packaging is so cute too! I'm a huge fan of Inglot shadows, but these are just fantastic for the price. You get 10 shades including 5 mattes and 5 lovely shimmery tones. The looks you can create with this fab little pallet are endless. Grab it while you can its a must have for any makeup kit. 😊
I stumbled across this little gem when I was shopping for Catrice All Matt Plus foundation. Catrice is fast growing as a major beauty budget buy and it does exactly what it's supposed to. The Prime and Fine Beautifying Primer is a gorgeous smelling, pink liquid of amazingness! It instantly gives your face a coverage that blends out any blemishes and leaves it dewy looking, without shine. I wear Catrice foundation at work and I find the primer works best with this foundation. But it literally brightens my skin instantly and feels gorgeous on. It lasts a long time too (I've had mine just over 2 months, but note the recommended shelf life of it is 12) Found in Penneys and most pharmacies.
Go get it! You won't be sorry!
Emma @ Celtic Curves ❤️
So ladies its summer time which means we all want that beautiful tanned goddess look! Barry M hasannounced the launch of its new In The Glow Tahitian Body Oil. This oil is infused with coconut oil, Tahitian gardenia and manoi oil. Designed for use on arms,legs and décolletage. Its gives your skin a beautiful bronzed glow without an hint of tango! Its perfect even without any base tan to give a subtle glow and make your skin look divine! Its in boots, superdrug and most large pharmacies for €9.99 I'm in love ♡ Nicole xx
This week my go-to product is NYX “SK01 Shine Killer”.
It is an absolute MUST for this weather. You can wear it alone or over makeup. It doesn’t provide any SPF though, so make sure your face cream/moisturiser or sun lotion is on before it. I use it 1st, so I put it on before any of my other makeup. I don’t use a brush to apply it, just clean hands/fingertips as its very watery in the heat. Also, a little goes a long way, 2 pea sized amounts provides coverage for my whole face.
It makes your face appear to have a “matte” look to it. So, it stops that nasty glare you get on your face around your forehead and nose. If like me, you get sweaty upper lip (what even is that?! Haha) then it also helps to stop the makeup wearing off! Very handy if you’re heading on a night out that involves lots of dancing and drunken antics
Rach @ CC xx
I dont wear foundation during the day, but I like to protect my skin from sun damage and even out my skin tone. This all in one skin perfector is the perfect combination for day time wear and gives a radiant luminous complexion. It also has a built in SPF15 UV protection, evens out skin tone, smoothes fine lines, hides redness, dark circles and blurs imperfections, to give you a lustrous complexion without the heaviness of a foundation. Its also nice and light for under the eye, and can be used on its own or as a base for foundation.🌸 Fifi xx
One of my favourite beauty items is lipstick. If I am feeling particularly lazy make up wise, slapping on some bright lipstick can change your look with minimal effort. I love to experiment with colours.
At the moment I am particularly in love with vice lipstick by Urban Decay. There are so many beautiful colours and they stay so well!
At a beach photoshoot I spent several hours in the rain and sea. By the end my make up was smudged or non existent except my lipstick which was pristine. It hadn't budged at all! Definitely a must have in any make up lovers bag