So I was asked to do a little piece for the lovely ladies at Celtic Curves - positive role models in every sense of the word. I wasn’t sure what to write about that would be of interest to everyone. I was a little scared because it’s one thing writing for myself, but to write for others is a little harder.
Then I remembered the quote below, fear doesn’t open doors.
So a little about me from way back when, before the world turned upside down.
I’m an only child, but not the spoiled type that people go on about. My dad was a lot older than my mum, and unfortunately when I was 9, he passed away. Life got tough and I moved from Sligo to Donegal at age 11 to live with my aunt.
I was such a shy awkward child who was bigger than the average child, and boy did I pay for it. From the age of 11 till 13, I was badly bullied. I had two nicknames courtesy of the bullies - R.A.T (Russian army tank) or for anyone of a certain age you will remember the advert for Domestos that went (sing it it makes more sense!)...."Big Big Dom". Well I was big Anne. I was often kicked and punched, had rotten eggs pelted at me etc. One night, I finally had enough after being punched in the stomach. I got up, pulled my fist behind my head and hit that boy with all the force of the big girl I was, and left him on his ass. From that day on, I was never bullied again, I realised bullies are cowards and once you stand up to them, they cower.
I think that was the start of my journey fighting with myself to be like everyone else so I wouldn’t stand out. God or the heavens had other plans. At 17 I got Alopecia. It was just patches to start with, but by 22 it was all gone & I’d lost all my hair on my head and body.
So why now am I putting myself out there? Two reasons - a broken heart, and I’m tired hiding. So many people hide for various reasons but not me; not anymore. I want people to see me. I want to make a bald woman the norm. Hell, I want to make the type of person I am the norm. I won’t let the lack of hair or the size of my clothes define me and neither should you!
Be you. There’s no one else like you in the world, and that should be celebrated. I love this quote “I am me there is no one else I’d rather be”. Be you, be brave and most of all be authentic to yourself.
Ms Amazebald xx