Mirror, mirror on the wall. Who’s the fairest of them all?”
Well I hope today you started by saying “I am!” If not, here’s a few fun facts and information for your beautiful self before your too hard on that face staring back at you.
Do you know that it is scientifically proven that women are less pleased then men by their reflection? That what we see in our reflection is greatly distorted from what others see of us?! This reflection of what we think is our true self apparently isn’t us at all! So, beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder. Our face, body etc. can be more loved by a bystander then ourselves - how is that right?!
What you see in your mirror reflection can be greater or less distorted from your true reflection by anything from mood, age, sex, weight, past emotional experiences and even just what you ate for lunch. That’s a hell of a lot of variables to consider when you wake up with a puffy face, drool down your chin and your hair like a nest!
Do you ever open your camera accidently and your met with an image like this?
And you just think “FML Sideways!” All chins and nostrils! Honey relax, no one - and I mean no one - looks good at this angle!
That being considered, everyone has their “good side”. This is the part that we conceive to be the best angle to view our reflection from, but it’s us viewing it and scrutinising it; and remember, what we ate for breakfast might make us hate it!
Next to that you deal with everyone’s nightmare - the ideal selfie! You know the score, its Saturday night… you’re with your mates… 600 selfies in and FINALLY one we all mildly approve on. The head tilt is right, the forehead isn’t glossy, my nose hasn’t got the weird snot shadow AND go team, cleavage game is strong!
See what once was called vanity has now become the entire opposite. You see we have become a society that now instead of being vain and overly loving ourselves (like was once thought), we now are entirely insecure and tear ourselves apart.
We take 600 selfies… we glance at every mirror or reflective surface that we pass… we spend 3 hours doing our hair and makeup and people would say we’re narcissists, but I think it’s more because we are totally insecure to the mind-f*ck that is perfection. So, we spend every day, every mirror glance and every picture searching for it.
It does not exist! You are the ideal mirror image of you and true beauty is only skin deep! You can be society's ideal beauty but I’ll tell you something for nothing; your personality and attitude can be rotten to the core. I’d rather be loved for my banter then how I look in a picture.
What you need to take from this is that you, as you are, standing there in front of the mirror, hating on yourself are beautiful. That picture of you that just got tagged on Facebook, okay it’s not your finest but it’s simply one moment frozen in time. The mirror you just walked past is only one glimpse, one angle of a face and body that is beautiful, even if you can’t see it right this second!
A reflection or an image cannot provide you with self-worth. Your number of likes on a social media image doesn’t directly relate to the amount of love or true friendship in your life. Your image cannot show your warmth, compassion, personality or aura.
My favourite quote has to be, mirrors “are a temporary receptacle for some tiny fraction of our soul”. There’s a huge amount of truth to it. If people could all see our soul instead of our skin, would you be beautiful?
What is more important… the likes and the good picture, or being a good person who is true to themselves while still being happy in their own skin without justification from anyone else?
Rach @ CC xx